The fighter in me is tired.
I don’t want to fight anymore.
I feel as though I have been battling my entire life and I am sick of it. I am sick of hiding my true self and my true feelings. I am sick of being someone else just to please those around me. I want to live my life.
I am sick of feeling bad about myself for wanting to be myself. I am sick of the anxiety and depression eating away at me, always reminding me it’s there and that it can and WILL ruin anything and everything. I am sick of feeling like “the little engine that can’t”.
I have been off of work (and on Disability because of my illness) for over 2 years now. It’s almost up and it worries me. Part of me wants an extension, part of me doesn’t. Disability, though helpful, really sucks. I seem to have the case-worker who never calls me back and doesn’t seem all that willing to help me. I want to be helped. I want to be better. Why do I always get the shitty case worker?
When I was first off work and looking into Disability, I had to temporarily go on Welfare whilst I waited (over a YEAR!!!) for my Disability claim to be accepted and begin. While on Welfare I had a case worker – a different one then I have now. I went on Welfare to get Disability (this is what they tell you to do) so I could focus on getting better and become a strong member of society. My first meeting with my Welfare case worker I was told to “go on medication and try harder”. Thank you. I NEVER thought of that! I haven’t already been over-medicated, over-worked, and out of options. I was literally treated like dirt on this woman’s shoe. This is what we get for trying to help ourselves??? To add insult to injury I had to pretty much tell this woman against my will that I had been victim of sexual abuse as a child, my mom is crazy (not literally speaking) and my dad is dead. I will never forget driving home from that meeting. I cried the entire way home. I seriously considered slamming my beloved red Cavalier into a telephone pole. End it.
I perservered and I indeed was accepted to receive Disability payments until early 2017. Great! The bullshit is over. WRONGO!!! I literally have to chase down my case worker via telephone if I have so much as a simple question. I have had to get my local MP involved because I felt as though I was being completely ignored. Here I am, a few months later, being ignored AGAIN. I have questions I need answers to. I have been calling and leaving messages for over 2 weeks and have yet to receive a call back. Now I know not every case worker is like this, I just seem to have this incredible luck. I try to help myself and I get these assholes who make me feel like I have taken 2 to 12 steps back. I went on disability to help myself. Is that not what it is for?
I have been crying all afternoon and some of the night. I feel like I have completely screwed myself with all of this. In a few months I will be kicked off. I no longer have my beloved car. I had to sell it because I needed the money more at the time. The confidence I was hoping to gain is non existent. I find myself wondering why the hell I even bothered trying [to help myself]. The fear, anxiety, and depression still cripples me and I am so sick of it. I am sick of it all.
Something needs to change. The system sucks all the way around. I know this from a lot of experiences. It’s not right. We tell our children “it will get better”. Why are we lying to them? How does it get better? You become an adult where nothing gets better. The bullying doesn’t end, it just appears in other places. Grow a thicker skin? Fuck you. Learn some compassion and have some understanding. My brain is already against me. I don’t need validation from assholes that it’s right.
When my dad died in 2013 I promised myself I would make my life what I wanted because life is too short not to. I still believe that but I am tired. I have spent over a decade making decisions based on fear and agoraphobia (and what my mother will say but that’s another story for another day…). I am tired of the fear holding me back. I am tired of being afraid. I don’t want to cry anymore.
I feel as though I am either giving up or just starting to move forward. I am honestly not sure which it is. I have not given up yet but if I can’t get this ball rolling I can’t promise I won’t [give up]. I can’t live the next 10+ years the way I lived the last 10+ years. I can’t because I won’t make it if I do.